Where have all the real men gone? or, Why is your husband so gay?

Why have married men turned gay? I don't literally mean that they like to have sex with other men, but why do married men now act more like a stereotypical feminine homosexual man than, well, most homosexual men that I know?

I think it may be a generational thing. When I was a kid, my Dad didn't give a crap about what kind of jeans he wore, he just was happy to be wearing jeans instead of slacks. He didn't curl up on the sofa and watch Top Chef (still doesn't by the way), he watched sports, and lot's of them! He didn't watch his diet and eat organic, it was meat and potatoes all the way baby! I feel like I must sound like a beer commercial, but it's true! Observing him be this way was how I identified what being a man must be.

Nowadays men seem to be soft, really soft, and quite literally. I mean they use lotions and potions and crap. Most skin care companies now have a Men's line specifically aimed at getting men to behave more femininely. It's weird if you ask me. This metro-sexual thing has gotten completely out of control! Imagine for a second your father's father doing those things. A little strange, yeah?

If they aren't soft then they're child-like. Crying, whining, throwing tantrums and acting like a toddler. I've noticed the husbands of many women behaving in all of the above ways and it's a little scary to observe. Since when has it been okay for a man to behave like this?

Men these days aren't the men of yesteryear. In fact, they act like children, or women, or little girls. They whine and complain all the time, constantly vying for their Mommy, uh, I mean wife's attention. What the heck happened? Is it a California thing? Maybe it's a newlywed thing because I've noticed it more when it comes to the couples married under 10 years. The wife has now become a mother to her husband. How messed up is that?! Who in the heck wants to parent their significant other? I guess a lot of people end up doing it though, gay or straight. In the end, any way you cut it, the guy who is supposed to be the man, the hunter, the protector, the rock, the big guy, has now become... "gay."

In the Gay Community I think a lot of thought goes into how a "Man" is perceived. I'll site the overly macho Village People as an example. No, they aren't REALLY macho, they just play macho on TV. The village people outwardly appear as the machismo and stereotypical masculine roles within our society. Gay men have taken the uber-masculine roles in our society and adopted it to themselves in a way to show others how un-gay they really are. (This of course does not apply to all gay men but serves only as an example for my hub.)

So what happens now? If Married Men are acting "gay", will the Gay Man adopt being even "gay-er?" Will the Gay Man now wear skin tight designer jeans and over style his hair? (Wait a minute, that kind of already happens). I guess we're in a "Chicken or the egg" type situation. Regardless, this hub wasn't written because I was worried about Gay Men getting "gay-er." It was written out of a curiosity as to what has become of the Married Straight Man. Not everyone is allowed to be Gay! Straight men must stay "straight acting" or everyone is going to get messed up in the head.

If the Married Men turn "gay", and the Gay Men are then "gay-er" acting as a result of a social mirror influence, then do the women turn into men?! Aaaaahhhhhhhh!!!!! That's freakin' weird, and it's exactly what's happening. Women no longer are the warm, comforting creatures we once knew our Mothers to be. No more baked apple pie and a kiss on your boo-boo. No way, they are now the Cowboys, Construction Workers, Police Officers, Military Personnel, Indians, and Leather Daddies we've observed thanks to the Village People! They have had to step up where the void of real men has been made. All the while trying to hold on to the roles of a traditional wife and mother. Whew.

Honestly, this is all making my head hurt. I don't even want to start talking about the Lesbians and how they fit into this picture.

I guess what I'm trying to get across is that Married Men need to step it up a little and remember what it is to be a Man, a Dad, a Leader, a Role Model. You aren't those things just because you have a Penis. It's something you earn, and that is to be respected and taken somewhat seriously. People respect strength and when you are lacking that as a "Married Man", it just makes you look that much more "Gay."

Am I the only guy that is noticing these things? Maybe so. Have I now offended the Gay Community by the brazen homosexual stereotypes in this hub? Probably, but someone has to say it, so it may as well be me.

Thanks for your time.